Updated: Feb 17, 2021
I’m sure you have heard there are two types of pain which is one that hurts and one that changes you . The pain that hurt is the physical pain.
The pain that changes you is the one that you are maybe angry inside at the person (who is most likely projecting their insecurities on to you) but you chose to just let that person continue being ungrounded and insecure because you understand and been there before. You let them project their pain because you have been there before. The pain you dealt with in the past have you to realize that the person is fighting demons inside of them daily that they are trying to ignore. You trigger them to do their inner healing they are not yet wanting to do. You have patience and love enough to know they are being insecure and afraid and want help but not sure how to go about it.
This pain the person is projecting also teaches you many things like learning how to just listen and not react. There is no need to react to every insult and argument the wounded person projects towards you just be an observer and take notes and keep working on your healing. Do not let them manipulate you, love unmanipulated walk away when they do the random silent treatment that is abuse and walk away when they pick arguments over things normal people do not argue about. Love unmanipulated.
I’ve experienced both I can admit that. I can also admit at one time or a few times I hid my so called angels/demons. I diminished and lowered my light for others to shine. I’m just self reflecting and randomly opening up .
Not going to dim my light for you anymore! A lesson I learned from a wounded soul mate.